20 years

Whoa, not sure how we got here... I barely feel a day over 20. Its be real and it's been fun... I wouldn't say its ALWAYS been REAL FUN, but I'm glad we are doing it together. What a beautiful ride we are on!

Here are some bullet points that I saved from this article called ULTIMATE MARRIAGE WISDOM: A LIST OF BULLET POINTS FOR YOUR FRIDGE
 a while back and come to often:


"Marriage

•  You were in love once. That’s why you got married, dumbass. So you’re probably still in love. Remember that.

•  You could have incredibly hot sex with other people if you really wanted to. But, that would ruin everything.

• When questioning your marriage, you should be questioning a lot of other things first.

• Money is more important than some things in a marriage and less important than others. You pick which ones.

• Kids change marriages. A lot. Can you handle that? Say yes, dumbass.

• No one else is married to you. It’s just him or her. That says A LOT.

• There is more true love in a grocery list than in all of the greeting cards ever written.

• Romance is nice. Patience is nicer.

• If you think you could have done better, you are a fool.

• Some marriages are perfect. Yours is not one of them. Deal with it.

• You are writing an incredible love story every time you bite your damn lip.

• There are two kinds of physical beauty, THEN and NOW.

• Marriage is way better if you take turns with the dishes, the trash, and the laundry.

• In the bedroom, just forget you’re even married.

• If one person snores and the other person doesn’t, the person who snores never gets that last little bit of wine.

• When you’re arguing with each other, you’re always half wrong. And that’s that.

• Those kids you made together? You couldn’t have done that without him/her.

• Long periods of confusion mean you’re not saying enough.

• Every time you open your mouth, it ends up in the book of your life.

• He’s so disappointing sometimes. So what? He loves you, stupid.

• She’s so disappointing sometimes. So what? She loves you, stupid.

• There are two minds in your marriage. And two hearts. And two souls. And four eyeballs.

• Little things are bigger than big things.

• Paris is a city in France. Paris In The Springtime is a mindset.

• No one cares more about your marriage more than you two.

• Remember that exact moment when you both just knew it was the real deal. Well, guess what? It’s still happening.

• Nothing is forever unless you want it to be. Isn’t that cool?

• There is magic in a messy house. There is no magic in an empty one."

Spirit Day

Today was Spirit Day in which you wear purple as "a way for allies to stand up to LGBT bullying." Our son was approached by 5 strangers at different times and told "You need to find Jesus!" Maybe these students need to learn more about Jesus. From what I know about Jesus, I can only imagine that he would be standing with students who feel bullied, who are verbally and physically harassed. Our family feels extremely sad for the kids today who were attempting to shame Jax. With that type of attitude, they will miss out on relationships with amazing people who may happen to be LGBT.

Read Unworthy's article here: http://www.upworthy.com/whats-with-all-the-purple-its-spirit-day-and-its-not-too-late-to-get-involved


Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss

“At some point in our lifetime, gay marriage won't be an issue, and everyone who stood against this civil right will look as outdated as George Wallace standing on the school steps keeping James Hood from entering the University of Alabama because he was black.” 
― George Clooney

Love goes very far beyond the physical person of the beloved. It finds its deepest meaning in his spiritual being, his inner self.

– VIKTOR E. FRANKL

Blooming

It's so hard not to worry about late bloomers. Even with the twins it was so hard not to compare and worry about the one lagging behind. Dede was crawling before Em even walked. Em was reading and writing flawlessly by the end of 1st grade. We worried and our hearts ached for De whose dyslexia slowed her down in finding the joy in reading. I still remember the first time in 6th grade that I found her engrossed in a book. I couldn't hold back the tears. Now it's just common place. I try to constantly remind myself of this fact as I watch Ollie's dyslexia and dysgraphia slow his blooming. I still ache for his struggles, but find comfort in the extra time he and I still have reading and completing homework together. All to soon he will surpass the need for me and fully bloom.

 They all bloom in their own time and just how they were meant to bloom!

Audible: this dyslexic kid's best friend! Here he was enjoying The Martian audio book!

Read the article that made me start thinking about this topic here:

Give Late Blooming Children the Time They Need by Jessica Lahey